“If it seems too good to be true, it probably is,” says Dr Elena Touroni, consultant psychologist and co-founder of the Chelsea Psychology Clinic. I spoke to some experts about the actual red flags you should look out for when dating someone new.Īs an overly romantic, sometimes naive person who falls in love with anyone who pays me enough attention, I’m keen to know when intense, romantic behaviour is nefarious, rather than just plain sad.

There are, however, a few genuine signs that someone could be unhealthy – even downright dangerous – for you. Let’s put it this way: It’s not gaslighting if your date changes their mind about where they want to go for dinner, and it’s not a red flag just because he doesn’t like cheese (whether that’s the ick, though, is another conversation entirely). We’re only slowly starting to critically reexamine the buzzwords that have dominated relationship discourse over the past few years.

It was more about why me and this particular person wouldn’t chime – my inability to select someone compatible was something that I, equally, needed to work on. She recognised a string of potentially problematic behaviours in this person that were visible in previous partners – emotionally unavailable, bad at communicating, avoidantly attached. My actual therapist, on the other hand, was more realistic.

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